Couples Counseling
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Are you struggling with relationship issues?
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Do you feel misunderstood or not heard?
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Does your relationship feel controlled or argumentative?
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Do you and your partner argue, then sulk, and rage?
- Does your relationship feel like something is missing?
Couples counseling seeks to help partners understand and resolve
conflicts and misunderstandings in order to improve their
relationship.
Sometimes differences between partners
are complimentary – opposites attracting – offering new ideas and
perspectives. However, often what you once found attractive
may now bother you.
Sometimes events, such as infidelity or
loss of physical attraction, can trigger problems in a relationship.
Communication is a common problem in
relationships. It can affect problem solving and
conflict resolution. During difficult times, such as financial
problems, child – rearing difficulties, or physical health problems,
each individual may have a different perception and emotional
response. Sadness, anger, or resentments may result.
Each person feels misunderstood and unloved. Blaming may then
become part of a communication problem and the relationship suffers.
Distress in a relationship can result in sadness, worry, and anger. These emotions can extend to how you handle children, work, and friendships.
Your relationship does not have to have
problems in order for you to seek therapy. Couples counseling
can also help those who wish to strengthen their connection and
improve their understanding of each other and each others’ emotional
needs.
When domestic violence or abuse is
present, you must first make necessary plans for safety for yourself
and children. In
cases where safety and violence are not present, couples therapy can
be an effective way to help develop problems and maintain stability.
How Therapy Can Help
An objective, trained therapist
can help you and your partner identify areas of miscommunication.
You and your partner will learn how to have a discussion
without blaming, criticizing, and without anger. You
will be able to identify patterns that one or both of you are
repeating. You will understand what both of you are avoiding.
During therapy, we will give each of you the opportunity to be heard and work toward helping you resolve your feelings. Couples are typically brought together for therapy sessions. This can be particularly challenging, given that it is often difficult to talk about your problems.
Your therapist will try to help you and your partner learn new ways of
communicating and new skills for problem solving. We will help you focus on the source(s) of your problems and
help you try to resolve them.
Couples therapy can help you learn better
ways of coping with a troubled relationship rather than ignoring it
or continuing in an unhappy relationship.
If your partner does not want to attend
with you, you can go by yourself. You can still benefit by
understanding more about yourself, your emotions, and your
behaviors.
If you were hoping your relationship
would bring you love, intimacy, and friendship but you find yourself
feeling isolated and sad, seeking professional help may you
recapture the passion and love and better understand one another.
A couple’s therapy can provide a
confidential, respectful, and understanding facilitator to help
improve your relationship.
